How to spot the signs of stress and start putting your wellbeing first | Tips for parents

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How to spot the signs of stress and start putting your wellbeing first | Tips for parents

As parents, we always have a lot on our plate, from juggling childcare and homework to kids’ parties and activities. However, add in a job, relationships, and finances, and you’ve got stress. Even if your job is great, your relationships are blooming and you’ve got your finances in check, there are still many aspects to your life demanding your attention.

Stress is unavoidable in modern life. In fact, some stress is necessary for health- it keeps us going and non-complacent. However, when we have many plates spinning at once, the stress can affect us physically.

How stress shows up in the body

Stress causes a myriad of physical effects in the body- some of which you might recognise as problems you struggle with. They include:

  • headaches
  • stomach problems
  • tiredness
  • trouble concentrating
  • muscle tension
  • skin irritation
  • teeth grinding
  • frequent colds
  • muddled thinking.

What are the long-term effects of stress?

Ongoing chronic stress can have a range of effects on the body. It can result in mental health problems such as anxiety or depression, and affect the heart, causing high blood pressure. Obesity can also occur through stress-eating, and a range of stomach problems such as acid reflux and gastritis can arise. Acne, eczema and hair loss can also be due to an overload of stress.

So what can I do to get a handle on stress?

The number 1 thing you can do to reduce stress is to make your mental health your priority. This means putting your wellbeing first, and saying no to commitments that take too much out of you. It also means making time for activities that you enjoy, and finding time to relax, in order to bring balance to the stress in your life. Here are other, more specific ways to reduce stress in the body:

Get out in the fresh air

Aim for a little every day, and try to pay attention to your surroundings. Go for a wander through the local park and notice the sound of the birds singing. You could even go for a 20 minute jog. The combination of exercise and fresh air releases dopamine, the happy chemical, in your brain.

Stretch it out

Take little breaks when you can to stretch your body in any way it feels good. Stretching releases tension in the muscles and helps calm the mind. There are a number of stretching tutorials on YouTube.

Get organised

If you feel like life is spinning away from you, try getting organised. This might include noting dates of commitments on the calendar or even merely tidying up your home. Being in a clutter-free environment helps calm your mind and body, and you can relax knowing your life is in order.

Write it down

Got too much on your mind? Make a list of it all. It might sound insignificant, but getting all of your concerns out of your head and down on paper helps empty a busy brain. When you can see all of your stresses in a list, you may wish to think of steps to take to eliminate some of the worries. This can make you feel more in control and at peace.


Laughter actually increases blood flow and makes you feel happier. If you can’t arrange a meet up with your friends, plonk yourself on the sofa and enjoy an evening of comedy shows or movies.

Listen to music

Play your favourite songs, and sing along if you want to. Creating your own feelgood playlist of songs that always cheer you up is a great way to ensure you always have happy tunes at hand.

Try new activities

Variety is the spice of life, and giving new hobbies a spin is a fun way to relax. Perhaps give cooking a new recipe a try, or check out a local fitness class. Activities like learning a new language or skill also help boost your self-esteem.

Deep breathing

Take a few minutes a day to devote to calming deep breathing. Deep, slow breaths induce the release of endorphins- the brain’s natural pain reliever. Either sit or lay down and place one hand on your stomach, the other on your chest. Slowly and deeply breathe in to feel your stomach rise, and lower as you release the breath. Continue for up to 10 minutes.

If you feel overwhelmed

If you find yourself struggling with stress, you can either speak to your GP or self-refer to a counselling service.

This blog was written for DAD.Info., now part of Spurgeons is Europe’s largest advice and support website for fathers. was established in 2008 as a new generation men’s lifestyle channel and the leading voice for Dads. aim to celebrate the changing role of Dads with engaging, helpful, practical, entertaining resources and content for every stage of their journey. It is home to the largest connected community of active, involved Dads through its interactive forum, providing great peer to peer support and advice for what can be one of the most challenging and rewarding life experiences.