Suicide prevention

What are the signs that my child might be feeling suicidal?

Look out for changes to your child's mood and behaviour, such as:

• feeling sad, low or withdrawn
• showing calmness after being distressed before
• saying they feel hopeless
• talking about death or wanting to 'disappear'
• losing interest in things
• sleeping a lot
• struggling with day-to-day life and looking after themselves
• self-harming
• saying things like 'it would be better if I wasn't here' or 'I can't do this anymore'
• searching online for suicide methods or information.

You know your child best. If you're concerned, talk to them.

Talking is key for suicide prevention

If you are concerned about your child, don't be afraid to start a conversation with them around harm and thoughts of not being here- it can actually save their life. Opening up this conversation means they are not struggling with their feelings alone, and you can help them get the support that they need. 

Start the conversation in a quiet, private space. Try to stay calm, even if you are feeling emotional or concerned. Ask open questions, such as 'how have you been feeling lately?' 

Avoid trying to 'fix' the problem, or dismiss what they're going through as a phase. Avoid saying things like 'I couldn't cope if you died'. This can make your child feel guilty. Instead, use statements like 'I love you' or 'you are really important.'

Check in with them daily about how they are feeling and encourage ongoing, open dialogue between you. Spend time 1-1 with them, even if it just means watching tv together. This shows them that they are loved and you're there for them.

If they're finding it difficult to talk out loud, try initiating a text conversation with them. Reassure them that you'll get through this difficult time together and that they are not alone.

What should I do if my child is having suicidal thoughts?

The key is to take them seriously. Avoid dismissing it or not taking action.

Ask them if they plan to act on their thoughts of suicide. If they do have a plan, or are in danger of attempting suicide, call 999 or take them to A&E. Emergency services take risk of suicide seriously and will be ready to help.

Even if you don't imagine your child will attempt suicide or they have not made plans to, contact your GP once they've told you they're having suicidal thoughts. 

Other helpful organisations include:

• Papyrus. Their helpline is open 24/7- 0300 102 2470, or text 88247.
• CALM. Their helpline is open from 5pm-midnight on 0800 585858. 
• The Samaritans. Their helpline is open 24/7. Just call 116123. 
• Childline. Call 0800 1111.

Take care of yourself

Caring for a child having suicidal thoughts can be incredibly hard. Consider ways to take care of yourself and build them in to your day. Lean on the support of others too and watch for any deterioration in your own mental health.

Explore a range of resources below to help you manage your own mental health: