Top tips for families

They may already know or suspect something is wrong. It's better that they hear it from you than someone unconnected with you.

Use language that they will understand and that is appropriate for their age. Do not give them too much information in one go. Let them take in what you've said and be prepared to explain it more than once.

Let them know they can ask questions and it's OK to talk about it. Let them know they are not to blame - children often think they are. Reassure them their parent is safe and that they'll be able to talk to or see them.

But don't force them to talk if they don't want to. Just reassure them that you are there for them.

Sometimes they might prefer to speak to a relative, friend or teacher rather than you. Let them know this is ok and who they can speak to.

Talk to them about how you're feeling and let them know that it's ok to feel different emotions.

Try to support a good relationship with their parent, even if this could be tough in some circumstances.

It can be a difficult or frightening time. Children might be worried other things are going to happen. They might be relieved by afraid to say so. Let them know they have your support. Tell them that you understand.

They might behave differently - they could be upset, angry, very quiet or not want to talk.

If there are a number of children in the family, each one may react differently. Think about how they are individually affected and give those who need it extra support.

It's a good idea to let the school know what's happening so they can support you as a family through this time, especially if the child's behaviour changes at school.

In most circumstances, they can write, call or visit. Knowing they can see or speak to their parent will reassure them and help them keep the parent updated on what's happening at home or school. It's these everyday things that will be most missed.

Keep as good a relationship as possible with their parent and try to agree on things.

If a child doesn't want to go don't force them. Instead talk to them about why they feel that way.

Tell them about security measures, searches, locking doors, people in uniform, sniffer dogs etc. Tell them the visit might have to be short.

Where possible keep visits to out-of-school hours, weekends or holidays. If you have to go during school time, be sure to talk to the school about it first.

Know how you're going to get there. Keep it as relaxed as possible, especially if it's a long journey. Pack favourite toys, books or games to take with you, along with drinks and snacks. Be sure to choose small toys as you will need to pack these away into a locker before entering the prison for your visit.

When they see their parent, let them have time to talk about their news, ask questions, share their thoughts and feelings. Reassure them they can stay in touch by letter or phone until the next visit too.

Each child might react differently after a visit. They might need to talk or perhaps they become quiet, angry, frustrated or change their behaviour. Comfort them and talk to them about how they're feeling.